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My younger just graduated from college 2 years ago, and she met this guy who she deeply felt in love with. She has a stable job, but he is between jobs from time to time, I guess. Her boyfriend urge her to get married at the end of this year, but my cousin’s family fiercely disagree the hasty. They only been together for a little more than 2 years. My aunt has discouraged their proposal on marriage, because he doesn’t provide financial stableness once they start their family together.

The conditions my aunt wants from their marriage are: first of all, he must be able to provide housing for my cousin. It seems impossible. He doesn’t have a stable job, and he wasn’t a saving type of person. As matter of fact, both my cousin and him weren’t the saving type. They won’t able to afford a house just now. Even with the downpayment, they couldn’t borrow money from the bank that easy with their current credit scores. Second of all, he should reconsider his career path, to find a stable job, and regardless the recent economic condition, he should having a special skill for his own. For the future sake, he should learn a special skill of his own, so he can find a better job in the future. The only encouragement is to go to night school or vocational school whenever he has time for it. Finally, he has to pay for all the wedding expenses as part of the tradition. Groom has to pay for all the expenses of the wedding.

I believe that my cousin really wants to marry this man, and she was in dilemma. Facing her family, she wasn’t able to argue with her mom and her father. Facing her boyfriend, she is in love, and she really wants to be with this man from her eyes. The only advise I can give her is follow her heart, or just delay her marriage for a couple of more years. After her boyfriend fulfilled his promise to her mom.

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